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How to Be Successful Reaching Any Goal

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Being successful is not something that just falls out of the sky. It’s not something that will happen automatically, and rarely happens by accident, no matter what people say. Success happens because someone set a goal, worked toward meeting that goal, and completed that goal.

That’s how success happens 99.9 percent of the time. No matter how much failure you’ve experienced in the past you can also be successful. You can be successful if you realize that it’s not a big secret and you don’t need to reinvent the wheel. Success can happen to anyone who sets their mind to it and works toward the end result.

Know What You Want

Everything starts with figuring out what you really want. Do you want a business, a hobby, or something to pass the time? It’s totally up to you and there is no right or wrong answer. The only thing you can do wrong is say you want a business but work hobby hours or give it hobby priority.

What you want is up to you, and not up to someone else. If you want a VA business but you only want to work part time, that’s great. Who is to tell you that part time work isn’t success? No one. If all you want to make is grocery money – when you achieve it, that’s success too. Success is reaching your goals.

Set a Deadline

No goal is ever complete without a deadline. If you want to make a certain income or have a certain number of clients, creating a deadline is imperative. The deadline will help guide all the other action you take in terms of time and resources put into it. Be realistic about your deadlines.

Don’t set them so far off to the future that you could do nothing until the last week and succeed, challenge yourself more than that. But don’t set the deadline so soon that you have to work 15 hour days. Be realistic about how long you really have to devote each day to the goal, and then choose a deadline based on that reality.

Create an Action Plan

Make a list of everything that you need to do in order to achieve the goals you’ve set so far. For example, if you’ve decided you want four new clients by Christmas then you’ll need to determine what needs to be done to accomplish that.

Let’s say you want to write a 50,000 word book in 100 days, what actions will you need to do in order to accomplish that? Do you need to do research? Do you need to write a certain number of words a day? What exactly needs to be done in order to accomplish the goals you’ve set? Write it all down.

Create a To Do List

Put this list of things you need to do in order of what needs to be done first, second, third, fourth and so on. A chronological list of actions that you can put into your calendar for you to do each day on that date will get you to your goal. So, for example, let’s say you want to submit 10 answers to RFPs each week. You must locate the RFPs first right? You must write out an answer, right? Put it all in order of exactly what you need to do each and every day to get to the final date.

When you create the to do list it’s imperative that things are in the order that they need to be done so that you won’t have to go back and forth or get frustrated. Try to work the same way you should process snail mail — over the trash can. That way you only touch and process one time, right? Figure out how you can process once within your to-do list.

List Your Resources

Make a list of any all your resources that you have at your fingertips, plus any that you might need from outside of your own means. For example if you need help editing, writing, with graphics and so forth, including technology, people, places and things – write it down.

It also helps to get out your to-do list and match the items that need to be done with who might be able to do them other than you. Don’t be afraid of this process. You can free up a lot of time and make more money when you’re willing to let go a little bit and get some help.

Ask for Help

Contact the people you’ve identified that can help you, contact the business owners who have the technology you need so that you can test out different solutions and pick the right ones without waiting until the last moment. If you map out everything you need to do from day one you’ll be in better shape at day 100.

Just remember, you really don’t need to do everything yourself. You can find help in the form of technology for automation, and human resources to do tasks you don’t want to do. In all honesty, “want to do” is a bad way to put this. You really should outsource anything that isn’t your main money making task when you can.

Get an Accountability Partner

This is super important. They say you’re the sum of your closest five friends. So if your friends make an average of 60K a year, you probably do too. If your friends tend to procrastinate, so do you. So, pick someone outside of your main circle to become your accountability partner.

The very best way to go about this is to get a coach. A coach will not let you slide, a friend might. There are numerous coaches around that purport to know how to help you build your virtual assistant business. But, it’s up to you to check them out. Find out if those they’ve coached have really experienced success before you pay them.

Check Your Progress

Every evening before you close up shop, check out your to-do list. Mark off what you’ve done, and move things over that were accidentally out of sync, or things you didn’t get done. Note what you’ll be working on tomorrow, so you’ll be ready to go when you start working that day.

Keep tabs on your progress so that you can see if you need to work harder on any given day to make up for lost time. This will help you stay on track. Do not move your deadline, only move around the “to do” list in order to make it happen on time.

Anyone can be successful when they set their mind to it. You have to set goals, create a plan of action, make a to-do list and then stick to it until you’ve accomplished the tasks necessary to get to the finish line. One thing I know for sure is that you can do it. I have done it, and so can you, if you want to.

Can Giving Free Consultation Build Your List – Doable 27

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Here we are at doable 27 of the ‘Build Your List with 30 Daily Doables’ Blog Tour. Yesterday we learned how to use JV Giveaways as a list builder.  It is definitely worth a read if you haven’t set on up on your site yet. A full list of the blogs we have already visited can be found at the Blog Tour Information Page.

Thank you so much Stephanie Watson-Barry for hosting us on our blog tour.

Don’t forget that not only can you learn some neat tricks about list building but you can also win great prizes. You can find all the ways to enter at the bottom of this post.

It’s not just on the blog that you can pick up earn entries – share about the blog tour on social media and use the hashtag #30dailydoables for more chances to win!

This blog tour is to celebrate the launch of our latest book ‘Build Your List with 30 Daily Doables‘.  If you grab the book while the blog tour is on, you receive access to some great extra bonuses – make sure you visit the launch page to get yours!

Have an amazing day!

Stacey Myers

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Can Giving Free Consultation Build Your List – Doable 27

Free consultations are fantastic for getting to know the people that are going onto your list.  You can book sessions for any length of time – anywhere from 15 minutes to 1 hour.  I personally wouldn’t give away an hour session for free.  I think 30 minutes is a reasonable amount of time.  When you have a session with your potential client it helps to find out what their immediate goals are and how you can help them to achieve their goals.

You don’t want to give away too many free sessions as it can take up a lot of your time. If you are giving away a free eBook, you create it once and then it will continue to build your list on-goingly, whereas you need to show up yourself every time for a free session.

I think the free sessions work really well as a list building tool for a particular product or service that you offer that is higher in price.  Where people might be a bit on the fence about whether they should do it – a conversation with you may be all they need to help them decide.

There are a few different systems you can use for people to be able to book sessions with you, and believe me, you want to make it as systemised as possible.  The last thing you want to do is keep going back and forth with people to get a time that works for both of you.

I really like TimeTrade. With that system you put in all the times you have available and how long you want each session to be and then you just give people the link in your follow up email.  They click on the link and go and book.  It easily sorts things out if times need to change or if they cancel, without you having to take time rescheduling them.

The form for a free consultation probably wouldn’t go on your homepage but at the bottom of the page that you are offering your coaching program or other service on.  In my publishing company I offer free consultations for people that are considering writing or publishing with us.  The only page that it is on is the one that refers to the packages that we offer.

Another time I do give away free consultations is when I want to do some market research. It gives me direct access to know what people are dealing with in their business. I give away 5 free, half hour consultations.

Do you think you would offer free consultations to build your list? Leave your comments below.

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6 Ways to Work from Home around Toddlers

Child cryingBalancing work and life is a challenge for most parents. That challenge is even bigger when you’re a virtual assistant working from home. Now, you have to find a way to keep your clients happy, entertain your toddler, clean the house, do the laundry, and market your VA business. Fortunately, there are ways to work from home around toddlers that don’t involve losing your sanity. Here are six tips to help you do just that.

Write down your child’s schedule.

While your child’s schedule may fluctuate a little day from day, it can be helpful to write it down. You don’t have to be super detailed or break down your child’s schedule into fifteen minute blocks. But if you have a list of the activities your child does every day, then you may begin to see short chunks of time where you can sneak some extra work in. For example, if your child always watches an educational TV show at 2 pm, then you know that you can schedule a small amount of work during this time.

Do your most important work at nap time.

Toddlers need frequent supervision and can easily get themselves into trouble. That’s why it’s best to schedule your most important work during nap time. Many virtual assistants that have toddlers use nap-time to their advantage. You can use this time for conference calls, client projects, and other important work-related tasks.

Have a play area near your office.

Even if you’re just working at the kitchen table, pick a spot nearby and turn it into a play area. Keep your area close by so you can look up from your work and see your toddler. Childproof this area and put plenty of age appropriate games and toys in it. Depending on your child’s age, you can use a playpen or safety gates to create this space.

Keep an activity kit ready.

Some days, work emergencies come up and you need a way to entertain your toddler for a few minutes while you deal with it. That’s why you should keep several activity kits ready. You can create an activity kit yourself with items that are likely to excite your child. For example, you could put together a box of ‘dress-up’ clothes, art supplies, or pots and pans. Then bring out one of the activity kits when you have an emergency and need a few extra minutes of work.

Take a break to play, too.

One of the best things about working at home is getting to spend time with your toddler. Be sure to take frequent breaks to play with your child. Your child will be quieter and happier after some mommy playtime and you’ll be able to go back to your desk with renewed energy.

Build in some me time.

Mommies need breaks. Don’t be afraid to take a long lunch or pause to watch the latest episode of your favorite TV show or do some relaxed networking. If you don’t relax, you’ll feel frazzled and both your child and your clients will sense your stress. That’s why it’s important that you take time for yourself.

Toddlers can be a handful and working with them under tow can be difficult. With a little preparation and organization, you can manage to balance both your clients and your kids so you can create the lifestyle you’ve always wanted.

4 Tips to Get Your Spouse on Board with Your VA Dreams

FamilyStarting a virtual assistant business can put a lot of strain on your relationships, especially your marriage. Your spouse may not understand what you’re doing or your drive to have your own business. Because of this, he might struggle to support your VA dreams and this can make it hard for you to get your new business venture off the ground. But there are things you can do to help your spouse come on board.

Communicate Your Vision

In most cases, a spouse is not supportive because he doesn’t understand your vision. First, you need to define to yourself what it is that you really want out of your virtual assistant business. Maybe you want to spend more time with your kids. May you want to escape the job you hate and make money at home. Maybe you want to use your VA earnings to get out of debt or save up for a new car.

You’ve got to clarify what it is you want and why you want it. Once you’ve discovered what you want, you need to schedule time with your husband to discuss these things. Plan your talk for a time when you’re both relaxed and neither of you are hungry or tired.

Be Willing to Listen

Once you’ve shared with your spouse your vision, it’s time to listen to him. Your spouse probably has some concerns about your new business and that’s actually a good sign. It means he listened to what you said and he’s processing it. Now that’s he listened to you, try to listen to what he’s saying.

Negotiate if Necessary

There are several reasons your husband might be hesitant to jump on board with your new business idea. He might be worried about finances, health insurance, or how you’ll feel if for some reason, your business doesn’t turn out like you’d hoped. Try to find out what’s really troubling your husband and work together to come up with a solution that’s good for both of you. For example, if your husband is concerned about your finances, then maybe you should work part-time at your job while you build your VA business.

Support His Dreams, Too

Your spouse might be the type of person that’s happy being an employee. He may never dream of starting his own business and he may stay in the same industry for decades. But he still has dreams of his own. Maybe he’s always wanted to take up a hobby like golf or photography. Maybe he wants to restore old cars or write travel books. Find out what your husband wants and try to support his goals, too. If support is a one way street in your relationship, then your husband may become resentful of your business and the time you dedicate to it. This could lead to future problems in your marriage and in your business.

Don’t get upset if your spouse isn’t immediately supportive of your virtual assistant business. You may need to have several conversations over the course of weeks before he begins to understand and support your business. In the meantime, look for a group of online business owners that you can join, like Solo Masterminds. There, you’ll find support and help from fellow solo-preneurs just like you.

It’s Not Personal, It’s Business….Decision Making (Business vs Personal, Which One Wins?)

Business vs Personal: Knowing How To Separate Your Emotions From Business Decision Making To Achieve Success


What are emotions?  The dictionary defines emotions as an affective state of consciousness in which joy, sorrow, fear, hate, or the like is experienced, as distinguished from cognitive and volitional states of consciousness.  Emotions have been considered by some as irrational occurrences that interfere with reasoning.

The thought process used to make any decision should always be rational.  Rational is defined as having or exercising reason, sound judgment, or good sense.  When rational thinking is used to control your decision making process, that leaves no room for your emotions to influence decisions.

I’m sure you have heard the following saying before: “It’s not personal, it’s business.”  Do you agree with this statement or is it something you say when you do not want to deal with the business of handling business?  Are the decisions you make while conducting business really business or are they personal?

It is best practice to separate business finances from personal finances as well as personal social media from business.  With that being said, why do some people find it difficult to separate emotions from decision making in business?

If people handled their emotions properly there wouldn’t be a need for Employment Law Attorneys, Psychologist, Therapist, Life Coaches, etc.  Although no one is perfect, it is your duty if you are providing a service to ensure you are treating your clients the way that you would want to be treated if the roles were reversed.  We are all human and we have our good and bad days but when you are being paid for a service, the client is not paying to deal with your personal problems.  Just because you may be consumed with emotions from personal problems or  temporary feelings, it does not give you a pass to lose professionalism.  You must learn to separate your personal emotions from business decision making in order to make the best decisions.

As a business owner, you cannot afford to have bad decision making skills as doing so is costly.  The decision to take on a new client is one of the many important decisions that must be made to ensure both parties benefit from the relationship.  If you take on a new client for selfish reasons when you are at capacity, you are doing yourself an injustice as well as the client.  More than likely, you will not be able to give the client the quality of service you would prefer due to having too many obligations.  There will be times when it is necessary to terminate a business/client relationship.  The decision to terminate a client is also an important decision and if necessary should be handled properly.  Making business decisions influenced by temporary emotions or personal issues should be avoided at all costs.

You may be asking, what does any of this have to do with business?

In business, sometimes individuals make decisions based off of temporary emotions that have nothing to do with the business.

In Corporate America, the majority of companies have an Ethics and Compliance resource to handle complaints filed by employees who feel that they have been treated unfairly.  In business, you have agencies such as the Better Business Bureau, to handle complaints filed by consumers against businesses.

Do you find yourself making decisions based off of temporary emotions or black and white facts?

Making business decisions based on emotions could cost you if you whether you are a large or small company.

You can avoid this very costly mistake by doing the following:

  1. Do not take anything personal. (One of The Four Agreements:
  2. Do not make permanent decisions based on temporary feelings.
  3. Respect the differences and the boundaries of people you deal with.
  4. Write out the reasons for making your decision before finalizing it.  If the items on the list are personal, re-evaluate the decision.
  5. Do not make decisions quickly, think all options through completely.
  6. Be sure you are not allowing individuals that do not have to deal with the consequences influence your decisions.
  7. Do not run your business in the same manner as you run your personal life.
  8. Always be professional and keep personal factors out business decisions.

When in doubt, if you find yourself questioning whether or not you made the right decision, there is usually an emotional influence in the equation.


Please feel free to post your thoughts on this topic, as well as your  struggles to separate emotions from decision making, or any lessons learned in this area.